Being happy is sometimes easier said than done. Here are 19 ways to make sure you stay as happy as possible.
State of Mind
Happiness is ephemeral, subject to the vagaries of everything from the weather to the size of
your bank account.
We're not suggesting that you can reach a permanent state called "happiness" and remain there. But there are many ways to swerve off the path of anxiety, anger, frustration, and sadness into a state of happiness once or even several times throughout the day. Here are 20 ideas to get you started. Choose the ones that work for you. If tuning out the news or making lists will serve only to stress you further, try another approach.
1. Practice mindfulness. Be in the moment. Instead of worrying about your checkup tomorrow while you have dinner with your family, focus on the here and now -- the food, the company, the conversation.
2. Laugh out loud. Just anticipating a happy, funny event can raise levels of endorphins and other pleasure-inducing hormones and lower production of stress hormones. Researchers at the University of California, Irvine, tested 16 men who all agreed they thought a certain videotape was funny. Half were told three days in advance they would watch it. They started experiencing biological changes right away. When they actually watched the video, their levels of stress hormones dropped significantly, while their endorphin levels rose 27 percent and their growth hormone levels (indicating benefit to the immune system) rose 87 percent.
3. Go to sleep. We have become a nation of sleep-deprived citizens. Taking a daily nap or getting into bed at 8 p.m. one night with a good book -- and turning the light out an hour later -- can do more for your mood and outlook on life than any number of bubble baths or massages.
4. Hum along. Music soothes more than the savage beast. Studies find music activates parts of the brain that produce happiness -- the same parts activated by food or sex. It's also relaxing. In one study older adults who listened to their choice of music during outpatient eye surgery had significantly lower heart rates, blood pressure, and cardiac workload (that is, their heart didn't have to work as hard) as those who had silent surgery.
5. Declutter. It's nearly impossible to meditate, breathe deeply, or simply relax when every surface is covered with papers and bills and magazines, your cabinets bulge, and you haven't balanced your checkbook in six months. Plus, the repetitive nature of certain cleaning tasks -- such as sweeping, wiping, and scrubbing -- can be meditative in and of itself if you focus on what you're doing.
Block and Focus
6. Just say no. Eliminate activities that aren't necessary and that you don't enjoy. If there are enough people already to handle the church bazaar and you're feeling stressed by the thought of running the committee for yet another year, step down and let someone else handle things.
7. Make a list. There's nothing like writing down your tasks to help you organize your thoughts and calm your anxiety. Checking off each item provides a great sense of fulfillment.
8. Do one thing at a time. Edward Suarez, Ph.D., associate professor of medical psychology at Duke, found that people who multitask are more likely to have high blood pressure. Take that finding to heart. Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the
kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e-mail function until you finish the report you're writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.
9. Garden. Not only will the fresh air and exercise provide their own stress reduction and feeling of well-being, but the sense of accomplishment that comes from clearing a weedy patch, watching seeds turn into flowers, or pruning out dead wood will last for hours, if not days.
10. Tune out the news. For one week go without reading the newspaper, watching the news, or scanning the headlines online. Instead, take a vacation from the misery we're exposed to every day via the media and use that time for a walk, a meditation session, or to write in your journal.
11. Take a dog for a walk. There are numerous studies that attest to the stress-relieving benefits of pets. In one analysis researchers evaluated the heart
health of 240 couples, half of whom owned a pet. Those couples with pets had significantly lower heart rates and blood pressure levels when exposed to stressors than the couples who did not have pets. In fact, the pets worked even better at buffering stress than the spouses did.
12. Scent the air. Research finds that the benefits of aromatherapy in relieving stress are real. In one study people exposed to rosemary had lower anxiety levels, increased alertness, and performed math computations faster. Adults exposed to lavender showed an increase in the type of brain waves that suggest increased relaxation. Today you have a variety of room-scenting methods, from plug-in air fresheners to essential oil diffusers, potpourri, and scented candles.
13. Ignore the stock market. Simply getting your quarterly 401(k) statement can be enough to send your blood pressure skyrocketing. In fact, Chinese researchers found a direct link between the daily performance of the stock market and the mental health of those who closely followed it. Astute investors know that time heals most financial wounds, so give your investments time -- and give yourself a break.
14. Visit a quiet place. Libraries, museums, gardens, and places of worship provide islands of peace and calm in today's frantic world. Find a quiet place near your house and make it your secret getaway.
15. Volunteer. Helping others enables you to put your own problems into perspective and also provides social interaction. While happy people are more likely to help others, helping others increases your happiness. One study found that volunteer work enhanced all six aspects of well-being: happiness, life satisfaction, self-esteem, sense of control over life, physical health, and depression.
16. Spend time alone. Although relationships are one of the best antidotes to stress, sometimes you need time alone to recharge and reflect. Take yourself out to lunch or to a movie, or simply spend an afternoon reading, browsing in a bookstore, or antiquing.
17. Walk mindfully. You probably already know that exercise is better than tranquilizers for relieving anxiety and stress. But what you do with your mind while you're walking can make your walk even more beneficial. In a study called the Ruth Stricker Mind/Body Study, researchers divided 135 people into five groups of walkers for 16 weeks. Group one walked briskly, group two at a slow pace, and group three at a slow pace while practicing "mindfulness," a mental technique to bring about the relaxation response, a physiological response in which the heart rate slows and blood pressure drops. This group was asked to pay attention to their footsteps, counting one, two, one, two, and to visualize the numbers in their mind. Group four practiced a form of tai chi, and group five served as the control, changing nothing about their lives. The group practicing mindfulness showed significant declines in anxiety and had fewer negative and more positive feelings about themselves. Overall they experienced the same stress-reducing effects of the brisk walkers. Better yet, the effects were evident immediately.
18. Give priority to close relationships. One study of more than 1,300 men and women of various ages found that those who had a lot of supportive friends were much more likely to have healthier blood pressure, cholesterol levels, blood sugar metabolism, and stress hormone levels than those with two or fewer close friends. Women, and to a lesser extent men, also seemed to benefit from good relationships with their parents and spouses. Studies also find that people who feel lonely, depressed, and isolated are three to five times more likely to get sick and die prematurely than those who have feelings of love, connection, and community.
19. Take care of the soul. In study after study, actively religious people are happier and cope better with crises, according to David Myers, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at Hope College in Holland, Michigan. For many people faith provides a support community, a sense of life's meaning, feelings of ultimate acceptance, a reason to focus beyond yourself, and a timeless perspective on life's woes. Even if you're not religious, a strong spirituality may offer similar benefits.
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How to be happy
Decide on the overall designer color scheme of your Christmas tree. It could be all gold, red & gold & green, red & silver, pink & white - the options are endless. The color scheme should compliment the color scheme of the room it is going into. There are many non traditional ornament colors available, such as aqua, plum, olive green, and navy, that will give your tree an updated look.
Decide if your Christmas tree is going to have a theme. The theme could be angels, Disney characters, stars, nutcrackers, snowflakes, or anything you can dream up. Having a theme is optional.
Purchase Christmas ornaments, garland, florals, ribbons, feathers, and any other designer items that compliment your color scheme and theme, if you have a theme. Select ornaments and trims that are over sized. Christmas ornaments in a multi-pack work great because they are usually less expensive, however purchase different types of multi-packs so not all the ornaments look exactly alike. You can get multi-packs at hardware stores, craft stores, discount stores, and online. I would suggest 10 large Christmas ornaments per foot height of tree. Consider using natural elements on your tree such as pine cones, grape vine, or twigs. You can also use artificial natural elements such as Christmas ornaments shaped as birds or butterflies.
Once you have all your materials, you should put on your Christmas lights first before you decorate with ornaments. Make sure you put the lights on evenly, both towards the trunk of the Christmas tree and towards the outside of the tree. Use approximately 100 lights per foot of tree. If you have a 6' tree, you should use 600 lights (6 strands of 100 count lights).
After the lights are on and you have checked that they are working properly, it is time to decorate using the garlands, florals, ribbons, and any non-ornament that you have purchased. There are many ways to add garlands to your tree. You can add the garlands running from the top of the tree down, tucking the garland into the tree about every 2 foot going down. Another option is to run garlands in a circle around the outside of the tree. A third option is to run the garlands in a circle around the trunk of the tree.
Next, decorate your Christmas tree starting with a single multi-pack of ornaments (if you have purchased multi-packs) and attach those ornaments evenly over the tree. Move on to decorating with the next box, periodically stepping back and looking at your progress. Keep decorating with the ornaments evenly until you run out. I would suggest placing larger ornaments towards the bottom and inside of your tree and your smaller ornaments towards the top and outside of your tree.
Now it is time to decorate with your family ornaments. Whether it is a craft your child made in school or an ornament from your last vacation, a Christmas tree should be decorated with memories. Consider purchasing a new ornament each year for your tree that will remind you of something special. An popular option is to make your yearly ornament a small ornament photo frame with this year's photo with Santa.
Add a tree topper and tree skirt to finish off the tree decor. The Christmas tree topper could be a traditional star, angel, Santa, fancy designer bow, or anything else that will top off your tree.
For extra special designer flair, you can color coordinate your gift wrap to your tree. Use multiple colors, textures, and patterns of paper and ribbon for interest. Brown craft paper with fancy bows is always a designer favorite.
